50 Steps Towards Yourself Autoresponder

The Search is On

What do you want to learn? What do you hope to experience in your lifetime? When do you feel most yourself? These are the questions you need to answer when choosing your path in life–one that stimulates your imagination, utilizes your talents, gives you confidence and helps you to grow into the woman you want to be.

My daughter called this morning and asked me to record my voice, reading cards that I've sent to her over the past few years for a project she's working on.

When she was at college thousands of miles away from me and things weren't going exactly as she hoped. Here's the advice I gave her.

"Just want you to know how proud I am of you. I know things have been really hard but you keep brainstorming for solutions, asking for help and putting one foot in front of the other walking towards the goals of your life. We learn the most from these difficult times, often they end up defining us in so many ways. Then someplace down the road you realize that what you're meant to do and be in life depended on getting the piece of information about yourself you received when you were going through hell."

When she felt discouraged after changing her major mid stream to design, having no art background (which she decided after considering the questions in paragraph one) I said;

"I've been thinking about you working hard to cut metal and carve wood. It does make me smile to know you are always willing to stretch yourself, to learn, grow, and follow your heart. Laugh with yourself and be in each moment. This may be an opportunity to come face to face with your perfectionism and see it for what it is–a prison that keeps you judging yourself. Don't worry about grades or starting on the water polo team–all of that matters only for a moment–who you become lasts through eternity and that is an internal journey that does not receive grades, awards, or require acceptance from others."

I'm sharing these with you because as mothers we give the most amazing advice. We want for our children what we sometimes fail to give to ourselves. To them we say go for it, live your dreams, love yourself, be all you can be–and to ourselves, what do we give? Many of us don't even ask the questions, we don't know what we're passionate about, what we want to learn or what we hope to experience. We give our energy and inspiration away freely with an unconditional love that we reserve for others, without ever learning how to turn it inward towards ourselves.

This is your call. Your life is yours to determine. Once you do the work and truly take the time to know yourself, the unconditional self love will follow and you will become open to discover the paths YOU most want to follow.